Simple minimalism rules that will make you a better parent

Humans are odd creatures, illogical and silly even. We spend most of our lives overworking so we can afford pretty and shiny stuff. We usually end up not having the time to use and enjoy the aforementioned stuff. Remember the saying: “The things you long to have, end up owning you.” Take your time and think about it.

Overworking makes us over-stressed, depressed and overwhelmed. Overwhelmed by information and clutter, noise and chaos in general. All of these combined, make us walk around like zombies, half present and yet absorbing all the stimulation to our senses, without even realizing it. That’s how we let those commercial slogans and marketing tricks settle inside our brains. We start to respond to them, acting the way they implied and become consumers.

  • “Shopping is the cure for your depression – it is scientifically proven that it will make you feel better almost instantly.”
  • “Lose 5 pounds quickly with these magical pills” (all the while stuffing yourself with cookie dough ice cream)
  • Nike: “Just do it!” – Just go on and buy this running gear even though you never ever go running. 
  • Loreal: “Because you’re worth it” 
  • MasterCard:“ There are some things money can’t buy. For everything else, there’s MasterCard.”

And the next time you feel unsatisfied with the way you are spending your life, almost automatically you go and spend some money. On new shoes, new running gear (you don’t run but still you may start one day). You most definitely need to have this new anti-wrinkle cream with fairy dust or diamond dust (after all diamonds are forever, right?). You buy the last model of the super economic BMW, which you’ll be paying for a price of amazing XXX,99 $ per month for 5 years)… And yes, thanks to your MasterCard, since it can’t buy you happiness and time for your loved ones but it can help you with everything else, you end up in debt for the next 10 years. This is what we are doing, when in reality we should be buying time for ourselves, time for fulfillment and happiness. This is how clutter becomes your new reality.

The expectations are that we should all be working towards the goal to become millionaires and spend our lives comfortably enjoying our time in the company of our loved ones. This is what a fulfilled life should look like, right? You do realize that it’s impossible for 7.3 billion people to become millionaires if they just work hard enough! Can you imagine what that world would look alike? Earning a million would probably take 20-30 years if you are lucky enough. What are you going to lose while focusing solely on earning your million? Most probably your loved ones, your health, your youth… It doesn’t really matter if these expectations are real and possible, as long as they are promoted as achievable, people will do their best to make them come true.

In order to implement minimalism in your life you need to ask yourself: Why is it so wrong to want and have a mediocre life? Why is it considered as lack of ambition to have just what you really need, nothing more, and to make enough space for what can’t be bought with money?

We have built out lives around consumer culture, and we are trapped in it as helpless pray.

Can we set ourselves free?

Welcome minimalism in your home and your life with these simple tips

Minimalism is a lifestyle of purposely choosing to live with less stuff in your home. You end up having less to maintain and more time and space to focus on what really matters.

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The real problem is not in the possession of many things, the problem is that we tend to buy things that we don’t really need and that will only make us prisoners of what is thought to be an imperative for happiness.

For mothers minimalism may come as a helping hand we so much need. Getting rid of the excess in your home might actually save your sanity and make you a better parent.

Are there toys spilling out of your kid’s room and taking over all the other rooms in your home? Drawers so fully packed up with kids clothes that it becomes impossible to even open them?

Have you been driving your kids around with a messy hair and PJs under your coat?

Do you get hit in your head by some plastic storage container whenever you open your kitchen cabinets?

If you have found yourself in one of the above questions, than yes, you are in desperate need of some minimalism in your home and in your life.

Get rid of everything you haven’t even touched in the last year.

That dress that’s been waiting for the right occasion, or you losing 10 pounds? How long it is been sitting there cluttering your closet? Let it go, it will make space for something you actually wear. All those kitchen gadgets that are still unopened in their boxes, they can be a perfect gift for someone in need of them. Or even better, sell them, get some extra money and take your kids on a small trip. That’s how your kitchen will become more organized and easier to clean. Less clothes mean less laundry and that equals more free time. Less toys equals less mess. Start decluttering your home and your life. You can start easy, make a list, go through your rooms and get rid of everything you don’t like or you aren’t using. It will take some time to get that deliberating feeling. You might have to do it several times. It may take a year. But, in the end you will realize that you have more time to sit down and read a book to your little one, time to chase bubbles in the backyard, time to be more present.

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Kids don’t need too much clothes.

They are quite simple, we are the ones over buying for them. Many of those clothes won’t even be used, since kids are growing so fast. There’s no need to buy new set of clothes for the new baby if you’ve kept the ones from their siblings. They are as good as new. After all they’ve been used for a month, two at the most. And while we are talking clothes.. Kids can not be expected to look clean and stain free all the time. Let go of that pressure and you will end up doing less laundry an buying less clothes.

Einstein once said: “The true sign of intelligence is not knowledge, but imagination.” This is so true. The types of toys your child interact with will shape his/hers understanding of the world around them.

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Implement minimalism regarding buying toys and keep your kid’s toys really simple.

Having less toys kids start pretending and imagining their own scenarios, and that’s how their creativity blooms and grows. Fewer toys will help them maintain focus, and concentrate on one task at the time, since there are no distractions. They will learn how to share and communicate with their friends. With less toys more words appear. Toy minimalism will also teach your kids to be respectful with their belongings. They will become more resourceful practicing how to get things done with what they have in hand. Kids will realize that they can’t have all they want, and this will teach them modesty. Another benefit is that they will appreciate nature more, when the fun in the house is over, they will want to go out. If they have too many toys and devices the “fun” will always stay in the house. The greatest benefit is that they will learn to value a tidy environment. They won’t have to go through a pile of toys to find the one they need and want at the moment.

Decluttering your home and freeing your space will have a positive impact on yourself and the people you love the most. You will have to find the perfect amount that works the best for your family. Once you’ve completed the process of implementing minimalism in your life you will experience a huge relief as if suddenly breathing in a fresh mountain air. There will be more time for experiences and connection. Order and simplicity will welcome happiness in your life.

Author:
Daniela Miovska
My Quiet Spot

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26 comments

  1. Such a good post and I wish more people could read this and every once in a while return to it so they can be reminded of it. We live in a society that lives above their means, that think that image is everything. Unfortunately, social media platforms exacerbated that problem to levels that I can’t even quantify! Additionally, is worth mentioning that education starts at home. School is a complement of what should be taught at home. The better we do for our kids, better adult humans they will become. Hopefully, not a attention craving generation.

  2. Funny how the universe is sometimes. I’ve been thinking about minimalism for a while now and the best way to adopt it in my life, and BAM! I see your blog post. Thumbs up for a great article.

  3. Love it! I am co distantly frustrated with the amount of “things” we have acummulated in our home. So often I am left trying to clean and organize but I can’t because we literally just don’t have a place for belongings anymore. I am currently trying to practice minimalism by placing myself on a spending freeze this month and going through the book “31 Days Living Well and Spending Zero.”

    Your post has encouraged me! Thank you!

  4. Such a great post – we buy so much to feel the voids in our life because we cannot manage our emotions. We lead a relatively minimalist life, and we’re decluttering at the moment – I can’t describe how good it feels to shift your comfort buys into the hands of someone with a real need. Thank you so much for your inspiring post x

  5. Your post certainly touches on the truth. The more stuff we surround ourselves with, the more we are distracted. Whenever I get rid of “stuff” I feel so much better. A closet that has room between the hangers makes it so much easier to find what to wear. Do we need that 30 year old dress? We all know the one. The one that is 3 sizes too small but we swear we’re going to lose that weight. Getting rid of stuff is getting rid of a burden on our shoulders.

  6. The only thing I hoard is books, ha! And my cut-off for getting rid of stuff is three years. As for Isla, it’s always ‘something she wants, something she needs and something to read.’ And experiences/memories over ‘stuff’.

    I think I need you over my shoulder during my next clear out of crap, ha.

  7. This is such an important post. As I get older, I’m trying to cut out all the excess in my life and am trying to only spend money on experiences and memories rather than stuff. Our consumer culture is ruining this country.

  8. This is a brilliant topic and totally agree! It is so much better when you have small kids. My kids are big but I still want to minimalism my house. Sometimes all the clutter overwhelms me.

  9. This is a brilliant topic and totally agree! It is so much better when you have small kids. My kids are big but I still want to minimalism my house. Sometimes all the clutter overwhelms me!

  10. This is a brilliant topic and totally agree! It is so much better when you have small kids. My kids are big but I still want to minimalism my house. Sometimes all the clutter overwhelms me!!

  11. This is a brilliant topic and totally agree! It is so much better when you have small kids. My kids are big but I still want to minimalism my house. Sometimes all the clutter overwhelms me!!!

  12. I typically practice this when it comes to my closet! I’ll go through all the clothes I haven’t worn in a season or two and it always feels so good to go through and get rid of things!

  13. I do agree with you decluttering is a must in any home not only for being able to raise a family but overall having a home that you can live, that is clean and feel comfortable is essential.

  14. Great post. We are currently on a journey to living a slower more sustainable life and minimalism is one area I am trying to introduce. We are a long way off but I am changing my spending habits and a number of new things we bring in.

  15. I’ve never heard of that phrase “The things you long to have, end up owning you” before, but thinking about it – it’s certainly true. I prefer to spend my money on making memories rather than accumulating “stuff”. I can’t really comment on your approached to parenting, since I’m not a parent, but I agree with less is more 🙂 x

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