Welcome to motherhood!!
When I was in the hospital giving birth, midst the contractions, one of the nurses told me that this is the easy part. Wait until your kid is born to see how things get harder. I honestly couldn’t imagine anything worse than your whole body shaking in pain, for hours. But little did I know.
Being a new mom is actually a shocking experience. Just few days ago you were the most important person in the world, and now you are in 24/7 service to another human being, one that depends on you to survive. That is a hard thing to process. You are slowly understanding that you are never gonna have your old life back, and that most likely never gonna sleep for more than 3 hours (you are eventually going to sleep, don’t worry, just not for now).
Now that I am a little bit out of the newborn phase, I can share a few things that helped me keep my sanity (at least a little bit of it) as being a new mom.
- Take your time to bond with your baby. You have just given birth to a tiny human. You will need some time to make a connection, to learn your baby’s cues. You will probably have no feeding/sleeping schedule, you might need some time to get comfortable breastfeeding. You might feel like you don’t want people visiting in those first few weeks. Let them know and enjoy your baby. Don’t get scared by the mess in the house, in fact get used to it.
- Talk to friends. You will know which friend you need. Maybe a more experienced momma kind of friend? An old friend with no kids? Whatever works for you, and whatever kind of talk you need. Spending days changing diapers can be a bit mind numbing so pick a friend that can take your mind off of it at least for a few minutes.
- Go out. Go. Out. Of. The. House. I made a mistake and didn’t leave the house for a whole week. I felt dizzy when I took the dog out for 10 minutes after being on home lock up and felt like coming back to Earth from a mission on Mars. You will be amazed how much some fresh air can clear your sleep deprived mind.
- Take some me-time. In the first few days or maybe even weeks this will be the time you take a shower. Use it! Have somebody watch over the baby and relax. Maybe go to the hair salon. Go grab a quick coffee. When the baby is small, it will be easy for you to forget about yourself. God knows, there were days when my daughter was screaming if I put her down, so I could barely have a glass of water. You deserve some alone time. Half an hour every day, or even every few days will give you some balance between being a mom and being yourself.
- This too shall pass. You probably heard this one before. It is true. You ask yourself how much longer can you go with so little sleep? Well, A LOT. When the baby cries all day and your back hurts from all the rocking, trust me, you will make it. And this brief period of time will become a fond loving memory you will remember for the years to come. There is a saying: “The days are long, but the years are short”, and it really is like that. Have a moment and enjoy this brief part of motherhood, I wish I did a lot more.
My Quiet Spot
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