20 things every expectant first time mom should know!
There are so many things that all moms want to share and advice all those mommies-to-be. These are my 20 pieces of advice for every expectant mom or a first time mom-to-be:
- During and after your pregnancy, people will constantly share their opinion with you. Almost everybody loves giving so many many advice to a first time mom. It might be annoying, but that is why the next thing I advice you is that you
- Don’t take every advice seriously. There will be so many. Just nod and smile politely and move on with your life :).
- The second trimester will be the most beautiful time of your pre baby life! Right after the first trimester filled in with morning sickness, constant exhaustion and uncontrollable hunger (for some), the second trimester is when you will feel the most normal out of all three of them.
- Third trimester will be filled with heartburn, sleepless nights, almost impossible tossing around in bed while trying to sleep, but on the bright side, you are very close to holding your little one!!
- Nesting is very real and it will make you feel better! You will never enjoy cleaning and tidying up around the house more than when you are pregnant and preparing everything for your baby.
- Everyone will want to visit and you won’t like that. And that’s okay. Try to have your closest family or friends come over, the ones that will help you with the baby so you can get some much-needed rest or alone time. Leaving the baby with someone you can fully trust and even only going for a walk or a pedicure will make you feel SO much better and you will come home to your baby fully recharged and ready to go again.. until the next time you need some alone time.
- Even though at first you will NOT want to leave your baby, not even to visit the bathroom, those much-needed mommy alone times will come. That is why:
- You shouldn’t be embarrassed or afraid to ask for help. Everyone needs some help, and that is normal. Taking care of a baby can cause you to lose some of your sanity at times. (click here or at the bottom of this article to read more on “How to keep your sanity as a new mom”).
- You will think that your baby is the cutest, most beautiful creature ever created. Even without doing anything, you will think your baby is funny. Because they are! 🙂 There will be one most beautiful baby on the planet and it’s gonna be yours.
- Your baby, at first, will be unaware of daytime and nighttime. My advice is, don’t shut the blinds when the baby is napping during the day or don’t try to keep it as quiet as possible during nap-time. Your baby at first will mostly be asleep all the time and can sleep through anything. Now at nighttime, try to keep it as quiet as possible, dim the lights and create a nighttime routine that you will stick to until your baby gets used to it.
- Routines are the best and will save your life. Brand new babies will adopt and go by what you teach them. Stick to your routine and once the baby gets used to it (1-2 weeks), it’ll be SO MUCH EASIER!
- Fresh air is good for you and the baby, and there is not a baby I know that doesn’t enjoy a nice stroll walk. If you’re ever feeling like you need to get away but you can’t, stroll walk is ALWAYS the answer.
- Bathing your baby in the sink with the appropriate support will be much easier than in the bathtub, trust me.
- Rolling over happens when you at least expect it. That is how my son fell of the bed for the first time with me standing right there. Rolling over starts out of nowhere and they get fast in an instant!
- Some babies hit all the milestones on time or even before, and some don’t. Your baby, like mine, may not. That is okay and there is nothing wrong with your baby. Note to every first time mom: Don’t be upset because Patricia’s baby is rolling around or “standing”/”sitting” at two months and it is all over your Facebook feed. Keep in mind that half of those are just pictures taken in the right moment, the moment just between the baby smiling and the baby becoming confused and then crying, but hey, at least they got a good picture out of it!
- Try to remember to keep up with that baby book you bought! I had a hard time doing that with mine and it’s one of the things I regret.
- You will want to buy, and probably will buy, all the baby toys there are. They’re cute and my child plays with them at the store so I buy them for him. As soon as we get home, he plays with the one he always does-our remote control. So don’t go crazy with toys. Kids play with literally anything except with the stuff you bought especially for them and most probably cost a fortune!
- It’s okay if you take your baby to the doctor for no other reason but crying all day non-stop. I have done it several times as a first time mom. Ended up chatting with the doctor who always has great advice to give and they have been very kind while a nurse is occupying the baby. Sometimes babies just cry for a reason we don’t understand, without them being sick. Taking a trip to the doctor’s office just means you are a great mom and yes, it is normal to worry that much.
- You will constantly check if the baby is breathing while they are asleep. I don’t know if this one ever ends, but I do it every day all the time 🙂
- Mom brain is insane! Next time you can’t find your phone or keys, make sure to check the fridge and don’t be surprised if you actually do find them there.
My Quiet Spot
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